Ever been walking in the rain desperately clutching at your umbrella trying to keep from getting splashed on by the fast moving cars? Me too. I call this fun game of evading muddy water ‘car-ti’ after the famous childhood game most Kenyan children, especially the girls, enjoyed. It’s very easy to play. So instead of a ball, think muddy water.

One fine evening as I strolled home in the rain ‘enjoying’ the car-ti game, a car (Prado) pulled up right in front of me. Of course, I immediately panicked as thoughts of getting kidnapped swirled in my mind. That is not how I want to make the news. The driver rolled out his window and said hello. The panic subsided a little and I thought perhaps it was someone I knew. Upon a closer look, I drew a blank. I forget names but I don’t forget faces. This man was a stranger. I proceeded to cross the road to get away from him. The man followed and asked me if I wanted a lift to which I politely declined.

 

He turned out to be hard of hearing as he kept driving right alongside me asking nay, telling me to get into the car. I stayed as polite as I could and ready to sprint if he made a move to get out of the car. Note that it was still raining as all this was going on. The man sensing that he wasn’t going to convince me to get into the car, started to hurl insults at me. They roughly went, “Who do you think you are? Do you know who I am? You’re not even that beautiful. I have more beautiful women than you begging me for a minute of my time. You’re stupid. I can’t even let you into my car now with your mud and filth.” The tirade went on for about a minute. As if the outburst wasn’t shocking enough, the man proceeded to splash me with water. At first, I thought it was accidental but he reversed to splash on me some more, swore, smirked, grinned and drove off! I was left standing there mouth agape (the term made sense to me that day) wondering if the man was a lunatic!

I have had several other encounters with men like that that I have come to refer to as entitled men. They are usually well-off and/or good looking and in a position of power and/or ‘famous.’  I suppose when you have been put on a pedestal by society, it can come as a rude shock when you are rejected. They look genuinely shocked by the rejection every time! Honestly, it’s completely ridiculous to assume that all women will be falling over you just because blah blah blah… I’ve hanged out with very good looking men who honestly cannot carry a conversation. The way to my heart is through my mind. I’ve hanged out with wealthy men that treat people badly and think that the fact that they have money automatically earns them respect. I’ve also hanged out with ‘celebs’ that act like adolescents because they believe they are the coolest thing since iTunes. Hence when I tell them that we cannot have a relationship, they fume like two-year olds.

I am not other women so stop treating me like one. Also, I am not the only woman who carries that opinion so don’t think I’m an exception. I won’t pretend that looks and wealth have no importance, they do. However, there’s more that you need to have. Your character, personality and value system count too. So kindly stop with the immaturity and understand that you may not be every woman’s type. Of course, not all rich, good looking, powerful, famous men are jerks. There are some really good ones out there. However, if we do date and you act like a jerk, I will dump you regardless of how rich, good looking or famous you think you are! You can take that to the bank.

 

 

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Ever been walking in the rain desperately clutching at your umbrella trying to keep from getting splashed on by the fast moving cars? Me too. I call this fun game of evading muddy water 'car-ti' after the famous childhood game most Kenyan children, especially the girls, enjoyed. It's very...